Comments on: Other People’s Kids: I really do hate dealing with them http://www.clobberblog.com/?p=224 Mormonism, Evangelical Christianity & More Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:51:12 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: gwen http://www.clobberblog.com/?p=224&cpage=1#comment-75 gwen Thu, 28 Aug 2008 12:15:33 +0000 http://clobbergirl.wordpress.com/?p=224#comment-75 I have simular problems with my neighborhood kids. Their parents just don't pay attention to them. I mean there is a girl that has been running around the neighbor hood since she was 3 crossing the street and riding her bike in the street all unsupervised. Sometimes I think parents just do what is easy instead of whats right. Example, it's easier to make excuses instead of discplining a child like "Oh she's very tired" . So I guess its ok to hit someone as long as she's "very tired". As far as confronting parents go it's a headache. Chances are they been doing so-called parenting this way so long that they are going to get affended instead of really taking anything into consideration. Especially since some of them think they have more experience than you. I have simular problems with my neighborhood kids. Their parents just don’t pay attention to them. I mean there is a girl that has been running around the neighbor hood since she was 3 crossing the street and riding her bike in the street all unsupervised. Sometimes I think parents just do what is easy instead of whats right. Example, it’s easier to make excuses instead of discplining a child like “Oh she’s very tired” . So I guess its ok to hit someone as long as she’s “very tired”. As far as confronting parents go it’s a headache. Chances are they been doing so-called parenting this way so long that they are going to get affended instead of really taking anything into consideration. Especially since some of them think they have more experience than you.

]]> By: Patrick http://www.clobberblog.com/?p=224&cpage=1#comment-73 Patrick Fri, 08 Aug 2008 08:02:41 +0000 http://clobbergirl.wordpress.com/?p=224#comment-73 Stories like this make me sad. You are under no obligation to pay attention to this child, but he is craving it like nothing else. I really feel sorry for such children, having worked in a field with children at risk for committing crimes, all they want is for someone to care. Like i said... you're under no obligation, but something about your blog just breaks my heart a little to read. Stories like this make me sad. You are under no obligation to pay attention to this child, but he is craving it like nothing else. I really feel sorry for such children, having worked in a field with children at risk for committing crimes, all they want is for someone to care. Like i said… you’re under no obligation, but something about your blog just breaks my heart a little to read.

]]> By: Bridget Jack Meyers http://www.clobberblog.com/?p=224&cpage=1#comment-74 Bridget Jack Meyers Fri, 08 Aug 2008 07:49:48 +0000 http://clobbergirl.wordpress.com/?p=224#comment-74 I understand your point Patrick. I have done my share of activities that involved giving my time to other people's kids and trying to make them feel special. I once was a kid who badly needed some intervention from folks who weren't my parents, and thankfully I got it. My thing is that when I take my daughter out somewhere, she's my first priority. I'm sure there are people out there who could give sufficient attention to a special needs two year-old as well as several other small children, but I'm not one of them. When other people's kids start making it hard to pay attention to my own daughter during our playtime, I get a little cranky--though I do know well enough to remember that it's the parents I need to be cranky with, not the kids. When my daughter gets a little older and isn't the smallest kid on the playground, maybe I'll be better at being able to pay attention to other kids there. And as annoyed as I sound here, I do my best to be as polite to the other kids as possible. I vent here so that I don't vent at the kids and because I can't vent at their parents. I wish I could say something to Jar-Jar Ice's mother about her bad parenting, but the woman is rather volatile and I can't think of a way to put it that wouldn't just make her cuss at me. Maybe next time, when both my husband and I have time to go outside with my daughter, one of us can pay more attention to these kids. I understand your point Patrick. I have done my share of activities that involved giving my time to other people’s kids and trying to make them feel special. I once was a kid who badly needed some intervention from folks who weren’t my parents, and thankfully I got it.

My thing is that when I take my daughter out somewhere, she’s my first priority. I’m sure there are people out there who could give sufficient attention to a special needs two year-old as well as several other small children, but I’m not one of them. When other people’s kids start making it hard to pay attention to my own daughter during our playtime, I get a little cranky–though I do know well enough to remember that it’s the parents I need to be cranky with, not the kids. When my daughter gets a little older and isn’t the smallest kid on the playground, maybe I’ll be better at being able to pay attention to other kids there. And as annoyed as I sound here, I do my best to be as polite to the other kids as possible. I vent here so that I don’t vent at the kids and because I can’t vent at their parents.

I wish I could say something to Jar-Jar Ice’s mother about her bad parenting, but the woman is rather volatile and I can’t think of a way to put it that wouldn’t just make her cuss at me. Maybe next time, when both my husband and I have time to go outside with my daughter, one of us can pay more attention to these kids.

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